You're Afraid of Success. It's a Thing and Here's What to Do
You’re afraid of success.
I know! What?? It sounds insane! The whole reason you get up at 4 AM and drink your bulletproof coffee or kale smoothie is to strive towards success, right?
(By the way, if you think a 4 AM alarm is crucial to success, we need to talk. Text me at 561-473-3318 and yes, it’s really me on the other end of the line!)
Wouldn’t you argue the only reason you do anything is to be successful? So why would you strive to be successful... if you’re afraid of success?
Why is Success Scary?
Because of our ass-backwards understanding of what success means for our lives and happiness, 99% of people are scared of the very things they want.
Why? What would make us so afraid?
What IS the Fear of Success?
The fear of success is tied to a deeply held but seldom discussed belief: that it’s not safe to be happy.
Let me explain: you fear success because success means having it all — in your career, love life,...
The Most Overlooked Quality Blocking Abundance for Women Leaders
How good are you at receiving?
If you’re like 99% of the women when they start working with me, the truth is…. Not very good.
The problem is, most high-achieving women think that by not needing help or asking for support they’re being strong, independent and successful. The opposite couldn’t be more true:
A Misunderstood Essential Leadership Quality
To be an extraordinary leader you must be an extraordinary receiver. You must be able to receive support, inspiration, ideas, perspectives, money, compliments, love, and more.
When you’re blocking your ability to receive, it’s as if you’re putting your hands out in front of you, telling the Universe no no no I’m fine it’s fine I don’t need anything leave me alone!
Which creates a HUGE block to abundance and success for a majority of women. It was a block for me, too!
Two Subtle Ways I (Almost) Block(ed)...
Dear Fear, It's Not You. It's Me.
Dear Fear,
It’s not you. It’s me. No, really, it’s me.
We’ve had an interesting run and ultimately, it’s not going to work. Our dynamic sucks. It’s time for me to take personal responsibility and take my power back.
I have let you lead and control this relationship and it’s not healthy for me. It’s holding me back from my potential in life. Not to mention, it’s not fair for you. I don’t want to be mean and hate you and wish you weren’t around. It’s such a waste of energy!
And yes, I know what you’re thinking…you’re just trying to protect me. You want what you think is best for me. You just want me to be safe. And I appreciate that, truly. The thing is, I want a hell of a lot more than that.
I want deep happiness, I want to grow, I want to thrive, I want to create a business and legacy that impacts thousands, then millions, I want to...
FEAR'S GOT NOTHIN' ON YOU!
Think back on your life, is there a time when you wished you had pushed yourself more and faced your fears, but the fear won the battle in the end?
Do you ever wonder how things might have turned out if you acted differently? Or if you acted at all?
Whether it’s a fear of flying, being afraid to speak publicly or procrastination and perfectionism in your business…whatever is on the other side of your fear is an opportunity for growth, it is an opportunity for change, and it is an opportunity for you to reclaim your power.
And yes, procrastination and perfectionism are fear in camouflage. We’ll dig more into that juicy topic another day.
Right now, I want to tell you a story and give you a few tools that will serve you in the face of fear.
It was spring break and my daughters and I decided to go parasailing. There they were, all excited, big smiles, totally pumped. Me…not so much, I was totally freaking out on the inside. Why...
